THERE'S A REASON WE'RE HERE

The Book Of Azaria has these words that explain what it means to be in a 21st century world. "This living without peace is the fruit of having made materialism the law of his life. If man were spiritual, in his affections and thoughts, he would not tremble like this."
 Many people want to be in the movement and on the other edge, we leave our true selves vulnerable. Sometimes we wish we were in the movement because our hearts tell us that "that's the right thing to do" even when the movement is wrong. We don't get to choose; other people choose for us and we just live. H. Jackson Brown Jr. in his book P.S. I Love You said that
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do." This means we are not doing what needs to be done. I don't want to wait for twenty years to look at my life and weigh in on what I should have done. I want to look at my days and say I was not in a movement.  Time to stop running with a crowd that has a name and start living.

You don't have to live "your" life trying to fit into society. Society can be too demanding these days. There's exaltation of material things. They amount to something but it shouldn't be ALL. Discovering yourself is not an easy road. But it's what we have to take if we want to die happily. like Neil Gaiman said,  If you’re making mistakes it means you’re out there doing something. Life shouldnt be about showing off. We need to shine a  light on our demons for everybody to see. The darkness will only eat us up and when that happens, living other people's lives won't save us.
Life should not be lived in the papers.  It's better when  lived in the blank white spaces at the edges of print. Living in the gaps between the stories  gives  us more freedom.

There's a difference between fighting your demons and trying to fit into society.  My life has been like that of a bear that's shackled in chains at birth to dance in the circus.  The bear thinks people love it (and they actually do) but it doesn't know itself. Life in the lights can be destructive to the soul.

The first girl I dated left because she found out that I wasn't the humorous character that was cast in her life by Director Facebook. There's limited time for us to go out and actually meet people.  video calling has never been  okay. There's something deeper that happens when you meet a person physically. Sometimes the results may not be good because our minds are already infected. We expect them to be perfect (when we're not) because of the air we breath, and whatever the screen writers want us to believe.

The second girl that I dated left because I demanded something from her that she wasn't ready for. I didn't learn from my first relationship. I was still that person who just wanted to have sex because society has okayed premarital sex. Sex is supposed to be spiritual and when we do it just to satisfy our bodily desires; it means we're not doing enough to get away from "political correctness".

It's time to do whatever it takes and take those steps of being who are. It's all that we need in our lives.

HALL LIFE IS WHOLE

"You have your key with you! Just open, there's nothing going on"

That's one of the commonest lines  that happen on a daily. Living in a university hall means during the day, you get to see more babes and have less of optical nutrition at night. Halls double as lecture 'theatres' for some courses. As a nocturnal, a resident student would starve because all you see at night is two three guys out with a basin drawing water. There's a conspiracy theory that living in a hall is a trap. It makes you feel like you're re-living highschool except that the custodian, and all these hall leaders don't give a fuck about you playing loud music Monday to Sunday. If you're interested in going down in on your girl, you will need loud music, an electric kettle, and a roomie who can stay outside the room for more than 4hours.



 I'll tell you one of my most embarrassing moments as a hall resident. One Sunday morning, my roomie's babe decides to come over. It was a god damn Sunday. I didn't expect any fucking, sucking, squeezing to happen. But you know the power of a womyn. When you're with a womyn, you may lose track of time. Sunday morning, all Christians on a bible and this chic decides she wants the D. The time has come, I have to come back to my room to pick my laptop charger. I knock and nobody responding. There was no loud music so I was pretty sure, the girl wasn't taking any flesh in. Anytime, my laptop would black out and my downloads?? Gone. I open and find my main man kissing her. You can't run away. I couldn't join them for a threesome because,hey, come on; we weren't shooting porn. Immediately, I humbled myself and picked my charger. Almost forgot to lock the room. All I wanted was for this babe to leave, so that me and my roommate can have locker room talk. I wasn't looking for an easy road; first thing on his list of curses would be a plan of ruining any of my moments that would come up in the future.


 Halls give you this kind of mindset that in the future, you'll be having a room which works as a dinning room, living room, kitchen.  The part where your girl comes over and you have to 'chase' away your roommate is the one I love most. Like I said, halls are a trap; you maynt get enough time to visit friends in hostels. So when you're chased away; the only place you can find to rest your bones is may be the T.V room. By now, you'll have to wake up to 'vulgar' chants that ,apparently, appease the ancestors of the Hall. These are too obscene songs that am sure make the ancestors thump their chests in their graves. You would think these fellow students have fucked all the girls in this world. You know it's not easy to make a Grammy-award winning song about A woman's genitals. You wake up to see these people's faces and that's when you realise that culture is overrated. And don't get me wrong. They are nice to listen to because am a resident of a hall.



Culture is a good thing but writing a song about some guy who was too small to satisfy an old woman is insane. Insanity?? That's the code we live by as hall residents. Everything is insane. buying condoms (not having sex) and supplying to those who can't go a night without making someone's daughter moan. You may think my "hall" life is a mess but its not because right now my water has boiled and am about to make myself this semi-liquid 'delicacy'  a.k.a "ekisyaanga". Don't forget to knock because she's knocking right now!!

MUNA'KAMPALA - YKEE BENDA the RADIO WAVES BENDER

This a mad chune people. When I say 'mad' you may think its just a tune Ykee wants you to bend to when in your kafuunda, or in a club. Ykee Benda in an interview on Capital FM said this doubles as soothing song at the same time. The vocals and the urban touch are all on point. It's a song you can dedicate to your girl who stays in Bwaise and she'll for a moment forget about the females (anopheles) and be proud of Kampala. Tweeps were tweeting about the song and that's how I got to know the track. The Ugandan in me had hesitated to activate that Tooti bundle and download the song. Ykee Benda had released a remix of Farmer with Sheebah.



He's a breakthrough act so I didn't expect him to immediately release such a big tune in that short time. Most breakthrough artists release songs and wait for like 6months to put out another huge club banger. Munakampala is a song of this guy who doesn't care about what a girl has to her name. This is true love. Ykee Benda penned this song and she's describing this Kampala girl that has got him paralysed. "Munakampala wa nsanyaalaza" .  In this error of social media with almost every girl trying to look like Kim or Luzinda, Ykee teaches us that all that fame doesn't matter when it comes to issues of the heart.

The first verses remind me of the little lullabies we sang in preschool. "E'kampala nze jjensibukka. Jje nassaanga ono'muwaala...". You enjoy this song more when you sing along. The part that got me thinking true love is hard to get is when Ykee says " Bwagaana njaakumila empeeke" meaning 'if she turns me down, am gonna take drugs'. These drugs may be drugs that can help you to forget about the 'curve' but here I think he meant committing suicide. He even goes ahead to say "Suicide if you leave my side". Ykee Benda almost cried on this song, he put his soul to this song. Muna'kampala makes it to my playlist and writing this piece, it was on repeat. Unlike most of the love songs I have heard, where the lyrics are sweet nothings; Ykee Benda keeps it simple. He makes it easy for everyone to relate to this song.